Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Self Love

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. 
You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”
 ~Thich Nhat Hanh

If we are lonely while we are alone, we don't truly love ourselves.

Despite all of the things you think might be wrong with you.. love yourself. 
This is so much easier said then done.
I know. 

I'm always on the path of self love.
I struggle with it. I do.

There are times someone says something nice to me, and my immediate reaction is they are just SAYING that because they are THINKING another thing..
Like, Wow, her hair looks awful, "Oh, your hair is so cute!"
Or they are lying, or can't see right.
Or any excuse..

And I feel bad when I snap back "no..." when I'm told I'm pretty, or any compliment.
But, it's habit.
And a lot of us can't help it.

We are conditioned to believe we aren't perfect.
We are brainwashed to believe in a false idea of beauty.

So, what do we do?

I am not exactly sure.. It's something I struggle with myself.
But, I can tell you, 
We have to accept our flaws in order to concur them. 
Our imperfections define us. 

I'm working on accepting my flaws, and accepting compliments.
It's hard, and it makes me want to cry out in frustration sometimes..

There are sometimes that we need to remember how little and innocent we are..
We are like children.. 
now, before your click off my page, just keep reading. 

Our souls need to be treated with sensitivity. Like a 6 year old child. 
Would you tell a 6 year old child they are ugly?
No way! 
Would you tell them they are a monster and need to gain or loose weight?
We would tell that crying child that they are perfect just the way they are. 

We wouldn't tell a child that they don't deserve happiness, 
that they deserve this pain, and sadness. 
We want that child to be happy.

It's like when you refer to your inner child...
You ARE the inner child. 
It's time to treat our souls with some sensitivity. 

As I Began to Love Myself – Self Love Poem by Charlie Chaplin
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this
person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it “MATURITY”.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens
at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do
and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in
my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew
me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since
I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING
is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my
mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this
connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems
with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing
new worlds are born.Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!


  1. I love that poem! It's so beautiful, and it is very true. "Seize the day" should be something we all try to live by more often :). This last year for me has been difficult; I found out I had hypothyroid and have been trying to find the right dose for me ever since. I often blame the sluggishness as an obstacle in the way of my happiness. For some reason I think we are always looking for ways to create obstacles from what we desire. I heard some wise words the other day though, "A man asked Lord Buddha "I want happiness." Lord Buddha said first remove "I" that's ego. Then remove "Want" that's desire See now you are left with only "Happiness".." Anyways sorry for the ramble haha but I think the first step to being truly happy is acknowledging those things that are in the way. The hardest step is believing you can conquer those challenges, but once that happens the sky is your limit :). Thanks for the post Rachael, it made my day!


  2. Nice post and poem!
    Things are clearer as you age, and priorities change.
    Then when kids come along...they take priority...It's unconditional love...and there is nothing better!

  3. So true! One of the big things in my field (counseling) is congruence- being authentic to yourself and your client. I've often wondered how I can be congruent in session when I haven't fully accepted myself. How can I accept others if I don't yet accept myself? Thank you for this post!


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