Looking Back

 As you look back on you life, you will sometimes realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected or you felt like a door was closing,  you were actually being redirected to something better. And doors were actually opening.

We can't control everything in our lives. Sometimes we just need to sit back, relax, and have faith that everything will work out. It takes a little while to learn to let go, and just let life happen.

The funny thing is, the things we can't change, end up changing us, and most times, it's for the better.


The only thing we can control is how we react to things we can't control.
The more you can adapt to situations in life, the more powerful the good times will be, and the more quickly you will be able to bounce back from the bad times. Being at peace with yourself, means being accepting of all that is in this moment. Right now. We can't control what will happen next, but we can control our reaction to it, which will alter our happiness.


If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never have enough.
Be thankful for the things you have, and you will end up having more. Happiness doesn't reside in possessions, happiness dwells in the soul. Success means something different to everyone. For some it's possessions and money, but we need to remember that the things we own, often end up owning us, and when you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away too. Abundance isn't how much we have, it's how you feel about what you have.

Everything is as it should be. 
It's amazing how we always end up where we are meant to be. How even the most tragic and stressful situations teach us important lessons we never thought we would know. Sometimes the things we go through often teach us how to help others who are going through similar things. We are all meant to be teachers.

It's only when you are lost that you can find your true self. 
Realizing you are lost is the first step to finding the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don't want. Leaving those who don't treat you right, or who simply aren't "right" for you. Change is scary. And big life changes are even scarier. But, regret is scarier than change. "Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare."
Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it.
One of the hardest decisions you will ever face will be choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. 

Take care of yourself  first. 
Before we love others, we must first love ourselves. Before we correct others, we have to correct ourselves. Before we make anyone happy, we need to make ourselves happy. This isn't selfishness. This is self love, and personal progress. We need to balance ourselves before we can balance the world. How do you expect to lift someone, if you are not yet on stable ground? 

One of the greatest freedoms in life is not caring what others think of you.
As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. When you don't need anyone's approval other than your own, you own yourself. This one is a bit easier said than done.. Of course there are people we will need to seek approval, like bosses, and spouses.. but constantly wondering what others think of us. Changing the way we dress, or act for acceptance, that isn't freedom. I can think of no worse slavery than to alter your beautiful self to make someone like you.


We are not our past.
But don't judge yourself by your past. You don't life there anymore. Happiness is about finding a good balance in the past and the future..  We have to remember that too much thinking on the past causes depression, and too much thinking on the future causes anxiety. We need to find that good balance, and remember that everyone's balance is different. You can turn your life around in the blink of an eye, by making a simple choice to stand back up, and try again. Love again, live again, and keep on dreaming.

Everything is going to be alright. 
Maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could go wrong, does. You feel like you will be stuck in a rut forever, but you won't. Storms happen, and the cloud does get hidden, but, eventually the clouds will part, and the sun will come out to  shine. Sometimes we need to stay as positive as possible to see the sun rays, but they always come back.